We teach females that in relationships, compromise is what women do. We raise girls to see each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments— which I think can be a good thing— but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are. If we have sons, we don’t mind knowing about our sons’ girlfriends, but our daughters boyfriends? ‘God forbid!’ But of course when the time is right, we expect those girls to bring back the perfect man to be their husband. We police girls, we praise girls for virginity, but we don’t praise boys for virginity. And it’s always made me wonder how exactly this is supposed to work out because *laughs* the loss of virginity is usually a process that involves *laughs*…
We teach girls shame. ‘Close your legs!’ ‘Cover yourself!’ We make them feel as though by being born female, they are already guilty of something. And so, girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they truly think. And they grow up—and this is the worst thing we do to girls—they grow up to be women who have turned pretense into an artform.
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, TedxEuston (x)
watching my wife sleep…
it looks like she’s had a long day. wanna hug her but i can tell she needs this sleep…
Open Letter: It’s time someone told you!
Someone, anyone… Please notify all the men that they have no rights to our sexuality, and can no longer dictate to us how we should or should not use what is ours. Notify them that “slut shaming” no longer works, and that their rape culture is being destroyed. Let them know that they no longer get to tell us what is/not feminine. Let them know that we are reclaiming our sexual identities and that their opinions mean less than used toilet paper. Thank you.
is it a crime??
is it bad that I want my boss to be healthy, more because I dont want to deal with her not doing her job than me wanting her to have a healthy life? i mean, I’d like for her to have a healthy life and whoop whoop but i do NOT want to have to either take on more of her chores or deal with some new assbag because she has gotten too sick or worse…
has been a tough one.
work was a mother fucker (busy in office and on phone)
i shit my pants at work (and I dont wear under wear, so…)
i passed out in a bar bathroom (donated plasma, didnt drink enough water or eat and i drank half a beer)
started smoking again (made it like two days or somethin)
against the back drop of intense shit going on at home (the on going saga that is me trying to deal with a major mess I made smh)
there were good parts
accomplished some shit at work
and always, the moments when my wife laughs at and with me. i cherish those more than ever
now, the weekend is upon us. the 3 day weekend. Bella has had a fever since last night, there are errands to run and i dont want to go to work on monday (which im not) but i also dont want to not go to work on monday (*shrug*).
hope you all enjoy your weekend
Omar Johnson was slain by a police officer in Norfolk, Virginia on May 20th, 2013. His death was not justified, and evidence that could potentially clear Omar’s name has not been released.
Please reblog and reblog and reblog
must keep fighting and never never never give up.
the phenomena when you’re talking or reading and the exact word or phrase you’re at appears on tv or in a song playing….is there a name for it??